This week, after a few weeks away from the gym, I decided to go back. It had been the holiday season and my daughter was home from school, and then when she did return to school, I went back to my favorite form of exercise, walking in the open. Even when it’s cold, I bundle up, and enjoy the crisp air and brisk walk. It does wonders for my mood. I also wanted to avoid those who sign up for the first few days and a crowded gym. I had made intentional decisions during that time.
Within a few minutes of being there, I saw one of the regulars and we said hello. I can’t remember if he asked how I was doing or had been, but he did tell me ‘I’m disappointed in you’… wait. What? What had I done? Apparently because I hadn’t been to the gym meant that I had slacked off completely.
I tried to give my best, very tight smile, to avoid the other response.
I told him that because he hadn’t seen me didn’t mean I hadn’t done anything. He proceeded to tell me that walking wasn’t enough and once we get past a certain age, we had to do certain things. I continued with my very tight smile.
You see, I’m the one who knows my responsibilities – both in and outside of the gym. He wouldn’t know. Often times, we see people and make assumptions.
Similarly, as our church was having their ten days of prayer services, and each night someone shared a testimony of things they were experiencing, I was in awe and sometimes almost teary eyed.
Many people around us are dealing with a lot. They are carrying burdens that are invisible to the outside world.
So, if you see someone you haven’t seen in a while, simply ask them how they are doing, and stop long enough to hear the response. Try not to create preconceived notions around what the person did or didn’t do. They may have been fighting a silent battle, and it took every ounce of energy they had to get to the place, so that they are encountering others. Be kind in words and deeds.
Proverbs 10:19 ‘When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise’
Proverbs 16:24 ‘Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.’
Dear Heavenly Father, I’m so glad you are a gracious God. Even when others may hurt or offend us, help us not to respond in kind, but help us to show your love and care. Father, for those going through their hard seasons, would you allow them to feel your love and to experience your providential care?